Confrontation- is being actively involved in sorting out a conflict at the earliest possible moment. Meeting a problem head-on in order to resolve it or find a solution.
The opposite to being confrontational is to let things be, leave things to sort themselves out, or just hope the problem will go away if you ignore it. Possibly because a direct approach would be too difficult to handle.
Which category do you fit into?
Do you know why?
I know I definitely fit into the second category. It is easier for me to forget and forgive than to tackle an irritating problem head on. I was faced with that dilemma again just the other day. It is amazing that we just fall back into our old habits. What I did notice was that the problem actually didn’t get solved or go away! So I needed to make a concerted effort of trying to actually be pro active, think what my best solution would be in the situation and to try and resolve the issue. A lot of soul searching needed to happen for me to get to that point. Was it possible? Indeed, yes.
It is uncomfortable for me to confront someone. To tell them they have done something that irritates me. Is that because I am usually fairly quiet, I don’t wear my heart on my sleeve and I am happy just to fit in, not stir the boat and get on with things that I need to do?
Is it easier for outgoing people to voice their opinion and confront others when a problem arises? It always seems like that to me. But now that I think about it, maybe that is not the case at all??
Maybe these people are far more focused on getting the problem out the way and they have learnt to deal with a confrontation. It might also be that they really know what they want and are not flexible enough to change and are willing to defend their standpoint? Or is it that confrontation to them is not stressful at all because they have practiced it so often???
What I do know is that in life, problems or irritations will occur. Thank goodness, with all different approaches, outlooks and value systems that are out there, if we would all agree all of the time, the world would be a boring place. How you handle your grievances is totally up to you.
Do you bury your head in the sand, internalize the problem and hope it goes away? Or do you blow up like a volcano, blast everyone in your path and make the problem disappear?
Here is what I think you should do:
Take a step back, analyze the situation.
Work out what would be the best possible outcome for you.
How will you get to that outcome?
What needs to happen for the best outcome to materialize?
Who do you need to approach?
What is important to you in this instant?
How do you deal with the opposite party?
Can you leave personal issues out and view the problem as a whole?
Are you able to listen to the other side of the story?
Are you able to work together to get to an agreeable solution that might involve some compromises?
Most importantly, remember that not everyone reacts the same way you do.
Be sympathetic, be active, be passionate about making you the best you can be, make an effort to make your life happen and Live
Life Love Life!