I have been thinking about the title to this blog for over a week. The message, no matter what the title, is the same.
How long do we go through life denying ourselves a variety of things. It is almost strange to look back and realize there have been so many occasions that you never allowed yourself the freedom to do these things. I am realizing this more and more as I am getting older.
So why do we do this to ourselves? I have come to the conclusion that we are often too concerned with what others think of us. Wow, this is so dangerous if you live your life by it. On the other hand, there are some that don’t care at all what others think but that is another whole blog for another day.
Lets handle one thing at a time. I do believe that there is a definite truth in knowing more of what you want the older you get. You just have so many reference points and experiences. So why wait till you are old before you say what you want, go where you want to go, eat what you want, date who you want….. This list is endless.
Is it that we limit and restrict ourselves or is it something we allow others to do to us? For me when I look back and analyze my own situation, it’s actually a little of both. I am learning how to overcome this by teaching the people around me how to treat me. I am learning that not everyone will agree with what I want, but at least now I have people that will support me and cheer me on.
I have also learnt that my choices and decision making has become better the older I get. I now know what is good and what is bad for me but especially what is necessary for me to fill some of the gaps I have left for a little too long. When we leave some things for too long, we land up realizing we have wasted time and become angry and resentful. And that my friends is no way to live and certainly no way of enjoying life.
So here is my best advice: Write down a wish list, a bucket list, a goal list and just a list of absolutely anything. Let your mind wander in and out of wishes and wants and get them down on paper. That’s the easy part. Now, you need to actually sink your teeth into them. One at a time, but you have to make a start. Get the people around you to know what you are up to, because you really need support and understanding.
For so many parents who have neglected their needs and wants while bringing up their children……… STOP. You are teaching them to do the same thing when they get older. You want to give them an example of someone who loves life and enjoys it to the fullest. Set an example of abundance of life, love and everything in-between.
We need at some stage to break the mould of never putting yourself first. I am not saying all the time, but definitely more than what you do. Life is a beautiful place when we are acknowledged by others, but you need that from your inner personal happiness too. You know yourself better than anyone and you also know what you need more than anyone else. So it is time to be a little selfish with things that won’t hurt or upset anyone else in the process.
So I challenge you to step up to the plate. I challenge you to step out your comfort zone. I challenge you to do things you have always wanted to do without guilt and resentment. I challenge you to enjoy your life and to be in charge of “you”. I challenge you to never be too scared to get 100% from what you know you have neglected for too long.
I CHALLENGE YOU!
YOU HAVE BEEN CHALLENGED!