This has been a continuous journey for me over the years - trying to understand my own emotions and then, while often failing at that, still trying to figure out everyone’s else’s.
One thing I have learnt through all the experiences is that you can’t assume anything. Assumption has always led me down the wrong path. If you are trying to figure out your emotions, do some work on your EQ - it really is priceless. There are ways of doing this, but first, you must want to and you must be prepared to hear things that you might not want to hear.
Emotions for most of us are scared to handle and deal with and often so tough to understand that we choose the easy way out. We shut down and don’t deal with them at all. We feel for a reason and to shut out these emotions is more dangerous to your well-being than anything else. It is good to understand why you feel the way you do so that you know what to do with the way you feel.
Its ok guys... You can feel too! For far too long we have been told that only girls are emotional and boys are unemotional. This is unique to each and every one of us. I have met many people who feel and feel deeply about love, life and everything in-between. It is beautiful to see that we can connect on levels of emotion and still understand each other.
There is so much connectedness in the world these days so when we find someone who gets us…. We suddenly feel important and acknowledged. Listening to each other, sharing experiences and just trying to understand the other person brings a sense of empathy to the relationship.
So when you next want to really feel, take an interest in someone and share... don’t be afraid to share. Feeling is being alive and real and allowing yourself to grow in ways that you never imagined.
Sometimes we just need to put ourselves out there and go to those emotions you once thought were not for others to see. Be yourself and if being yourself means that you can share a little of your emotions with another human it is truly beautiful.
We all need to feel relevant and appreciated and that involves you making the effort with yourself, with others and with life.
Work on yourself, work on understanding yourself and how you feel and that way you will begin noticing how others react and interact. You will be engaging with more and more people on this level and this will help you develop a great EQ.
And don’t we all need to be more EQ’d? We all want to be understood and taken into consideration. So when last did you do that for someone else?
Just keep working on getting better at being better.