So how do you feel about how your life has turned out? Do you look back and think to yourself that you should have or could have done things better, smarter and more efficiently. Why do we always go out of our way to prove the system wrong?

We have so many examples of how things have worked for others and how we could improve on the lessons they have already learnt. So why don’t we?

Its important in life to find those people who inspire you and drive you to do great things, no matter your choice. So look around you and research the people who could best be your mentor and teacher. Ask questions and get the information that will help accelerate your progress. You are not trying to become them or even compete with them but rather collecting the clues to the lessons they can teach you.

It is not always necessary to struggle through life. Be prepared to learn these big life lessons and find your life move to the next level.

There is power in relying on yourself.

For me, this is learning to be confident in yourself and allowing yourself to make informed decisions and choices. Doubt is poison so it is a great idea to stay as far away from that as possible. Also the more choices and decisions you make for yourself the more you will begin to trust and rely on yourself. Xtra ordinary things will begin to take shape in your life.

Empower yourself.

This is a matter of experience. The older you get the more you know and the more you understand yourself. You need to find the things in life that raise your game and make you want to be the best player on your team. Do things that uplift you and push to doing more than you imagined.

Living from the inside out.

Learn to live your truth. Be true to who you are and align all your dreams, hopes and desires with what you really want. You need to do what is good for you on every level and not what you think will impress and please others. Do not let outside things define you, but rather be self-reliant and dependable. Know that you can trust the decisions that you make for your future and well-being.

At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets.
By asking ourselves questions that force us to think, feel, and look within ourselves, we can confront what is important to us.

Questions are an invitation to learn more about what we value most. Don’t ever stop asking yourself questions that push you, test you and take you out of your comfort zone. 

By figuring out the answers it will get you to discover things about yourself that allow you to grow and learn. You become more connected with the world around you and begin to create relationships
with meaning and understanding. Set out of your comfort zone and take a leap of faith.
 The unknown is often a place that we can find our true selves.

If you want something external to change, work on the internal.

Your external life is often a reflection of how much work you need to do internally. Your relationships, health, finances and career can all improve when you work on yourself. As I went through the process of talk therapy from a damaging childhood, I watched every aspect of my life get better. Progress didn’t come overnight, but as I worked through some issues and gained new insights, everything improved.

There is freedom in taking 100% accountability and responsibility for your life.

I deeply believe we are the total of all of our choices. I know a lot of people who are convinced that their life has to be a certain way because it’s always been a certain way, and I want to shout and jump up and down and tell those people that they can change their lives if they just take ownership of their lives. Every decision you make has power in it to rewrite the script of your life. Own your own life and your power to improve your story.

You don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy.

Finding “the one” was always on top of my life goals list, but what I didn’t get is that it can’t happen when I’m not happy. There’s a ton of dating advice out there to find “the one” but the best advice boils down to this little tidbit: Be happy on your own first. If you have more emotional work to do on yourself, you’ll choose the wrong person to date — or marry. When you work, your relationships will work. Today I’m married to the one, but I didn’t find him until I was truly happy on my own first.

You can completely change your life.

One time, when I felt like many things in my life were going in the wrong direction, I made two lists. One was titled: What My Life Looks Like Now and the second was: What I Want My Life to Look Like. After I made my two lists, I realized how much I wanted to change in almost every category of my life. I wrote down the action steps I’d need to take to move in the direction of my ideal life. Once I started making changes and decisions (in serious action mode) I couldn’t believe how fast my life improved.

Today I am happily married to a wonderful person. If you don’t like what your life looks like now, realize you have the power to change it all. Your new life starts with the decisions you’re willing to make today. So take action and put your dreams hopes and desires into action.