This a client who has shared a lovely piece with us. This allows us to see life from someone else’s point of view. We really are all so different and doesn’t that make it interesting. When we hear someone else’s story it makes us really sit up and notice our own. Every one of us has a story to tell and we just love it when people want to share with us. Learning from others is the best way to learn about yourself.
I have always been the kind of girl who enjoys being alone. Sometimes there's unnecessary noise when you're in the midst of people. And in case you haven't read this somewhere: there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I'm no professional so I will spare you the "deep" conversation about the differences but I will tell you a little bit about my Me Times.
I'm a happy girl well for the most part. I have my down days and aggro moments with dashes of emo times.
Last born of five, two brothers, two sisters, nieces and nephews from age 3 to 27. My mother is an early bird, busybody, chatterbox. I talk for a living. No, really from the time I clock in until I leave the office Monday to Friday all I do is talk. To doctors, patients, medical aids, colleagues, managers and even myself. I then go home to a two bedroom flat that I share with my friendly flatmate who's life partner spends a lot of time there. I have a handful of friends. And I'm on most social media. I'm never bored. Nor alone. I do get lonely. I digress. I've also just started dating again. It's fun. And we're quite the communicators from the time I open my eyes until I fall asleep we're in contact.
All of this does not keep me from taking walks alone to clear my head, sit in my room in total silence, go to my favourite coffee shop and have a cuppa alone. No, even when: I'm with my new partner or at work or go visit the family if I feel the need for quiet time. I excuse myself and go and be.
Some may not understand and assume that something is wrong. But that's when you have to be honest and say I need some Me Time.
In the crazy times we live in I was quite surprised when I was asked to write this piece. I had just thought I was doing what everyone else was. Until Coach explained to me that some people just don't know how to be alone. It will probably be scary the first time you do it. But just remember that this is for you. These are the times you get to be alone with your thoughts, your dreams, your goals, yourself.
Take that time to learn, reflect, plan, pray, entertain you.
One thing I'll tell you without a doubt there isn't anything you need that you cannot get from yourself. You have a beautiful and unique mind. Use it. For you. You are the number one priority in your life. Don't rely on background music you're not a movie. Don't rely on people yes no man is an island but Life will teach you why you shouldn't always rely on other people.
I told you I started dating again yes? Guess what I was doing after the break-up? Yip, having Me Time. It comes in many forms. Find yours and take it. It can never run out. Time is such a valuable commodity.
Unfortunately, you can never get it (time) back so use it wisely.
Live. Love. Laugh. Learn.
I have personally seen this young woman grow. She has come a long way since she sat with me and I am super proud to see that her growth continues. Keep growing and learning and never get lazy with your life.