"A journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step"
Telling a depressed person to get motivated is like telling a rock to dance. You'll get the same result. It's not that depressed people don't want to get motivated. When you are depressed, getting motivated is an overwhelming task that appears to be too big to even attempt. But there is good news: there is a way out. This way can only come through you. No one else can do it for you.
You may feel worthless and stupid because you're finding it hard to brush your teeth, much less pull yourself together. This leads to more "helpful" (parents) remarks, which in turn leads to even more depression. Unfortunately, no one can see exactly how you feel, but they don't have to. This is your journey is yours and only you can find your way out and create your life. You will need people's help along the way, but it's up to you.
The first step:
Don't resist where you are at the moment and don't resist all the feelings and thoughts you may have... In my experience, what you resist persists. Make friends with where you are and believe that everything is as it should be. What you do next though... Is your story to create.
The second step:
Focus on your thoughts. Watch your thoughts and see where they lead you. You are what and who you think you are and your thoughts lead to your actions and your actions create your reality. On top of that, one thought attracts the next and so on... this can easily be a snowball of negative energy. If you are not in harmony with the wonderful, incredible, beautiful, perfect person that you are, this will reveal itself in a 'depressive episode/ downer. So start by creating harmony with your thoughts and the positive things will follow. You will possibly be feeling the contrast between where you currently are and where your potential and true self-wants to be. That's a good thing because contrast shows that you want to feel good and be happy and experience joy and live the best life that you can.
The third step:
You need to love yourself, love yourself enough to stop torturing yourself with negative emotions. You have got yourself to this point, but you CAN get yourself out. Don't play the victim to life, be grateful and know that you always have a choice.
The fourth step:
Only control what you can control. You can only control your thoughts and actions... nothing else. Do only what you can do in a day and let go of major expectations... go general. Don’t be hard on yourself!
The fifth step:
Use positive thoughts about yourself to create new neural pathways in your brain. Over time, the old, bad, unused pathways fall away.
The sixth step:
Being grateful will change your world! This will open up space for more things to be grateful for.