Love or LIKE?

By LifeworX · April 7, 2017 · Advice · 3 min read

Anita at Camps Bay standing on a rock.

What does it mean to “put your heart on the line”?  I am writing this blog with the intention of sharing a few important aspects of relationships.

This is something I have learnt from my own experience, from listening to my clients over the years and it is now time to share these helpful insights with you.

For so long I have believed that love was the most important ingredient in having a successful relationship.   As time has gone by and more situations and experiences have arisen in my life and my own personal relationship, my view on this has changed.  Loving someone is beautiful, amazing and truly an incredible experience.  With all of that comes the trust, respect, commitment, forgiveness and acceptance.  These are wonderful things to experience and share with another human being.  There is also the fluffy stuff too, the intimacy, affection and the absolute attention one individual gives another.

As time passes and life as well as work becomes busy, family life and various commitments start to take priority.  This is when our love for the person in our life tends to move more into the background, often clouding our vision of the actual reality.  Now you should ask the question:  do you LIKE this person and what they stand for?

When relationships have evolved into years of being with each other you really do need to LIKE that person for everything that they are.  You need to share the same values and ideologies.  These are the things that become so important when you get older.  Sitting together, sharing dreams, aspirations and all that life has to offer is what ultimately you will love about that person, but you still have to LIKE them.

What does it mean to “put your heart on the line”?

It seems as though LIKE is such a trivial word, and in some cases it really is, but seriously think about how liking the person you are with would really go a long way into how you take your relationship to the next level. 

Think about how your world would change if you started liking the person you are.  We all want to find love and be in love and we usually want one person to be with and share our lives with.  When they love you, it will feel truly and utterly amazing but when they LIKE the person you are it takes your love to a whole new level.

Stop pretending and start living!

Liking someone allows you to accept them for who they are without trying to change them.   The same also applies to you.  When you can just be yourself and the person will like you for the way you think, feel and act, you have a good chance of Love meaning more because they already LIKE you.

Look around you at the people in your life and think about the people you really LIKE.  From friends, family to the colleagues, there are those people that you really LIKE.  Think about what you like about them and strive to find a partner that encompasses what you find.  Love will find you when you like each other so much that you can keep growing together in a direction you both want to be going.

So to sum this all up, you need to know yourself really well and when you do that and you like that person, you will be in a position to be loved by someone who loves and likes you equally.  You don’t want to settle for anything but the best.   To be on the same wavelength and working towards the same goal becomes easier as time passes.  Stop pretending and start living the life that you feel you deserve.  Design your life by being better at being better.


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